talking to youth about suicide
As the new school year begins, it is often met with many emotions by students. Times of transition can be especially difficult to manage for those who struggle with anxiety or other mental health conditions, and this is a good reason to refresh our knowledge about suicide prevention. Suicide is a difficult topic, but it’s too important to ignore. In Snohomish County, suicide is the second leading cause of death for youth ages 10-17. Despite a common belief that only teens and adults die by suicide, younger children can also be at risk.
Depression and suicide often coincide. Yet not everyone who is depressed attempts suicide—and not everyone who attempts suicide is depressed. If you’re a parent, a teacher, or anyone who spends time with children and teens, it’s important to learn the warning signs. These tools can help you prevent youth suicide.
Risk factors - Several factors increase the risk of suicidal thoughts or behaviors, including:
- Mental health disorders such as depression, anxiety, and other mood disorders
- Alcohol and substance use
- Impulsive behaviors
- History of trauma or abuse
- Family history of suicide
- Previous suicide attempt(s)
Warning signs - Not everyone exhibits the same signs that they’re thinking about suicide, but these warning signs are cause for concern:
- Physical changes in appearance or hygiene
- Increase in alcohol or drug use
- Sudden drop in grades
- Social withdrawal
- Talking about suicide or preoccupation with death
- Risky or reckless behaviors (such as reckless driving or unsafe sex)
- Self-harm behaviors such as cutting
- Talking about feeling hopeless or being a burden
- Researching suicide methods and/or acquiring weapons
If you have any concerns about a young person’s mental health, take action.
- Express your concern. It’s a myth that if you mention suicide, you might plant the idea. By honestly and openly expressing your concerns, you’ll send an important message that you care and understand.
- Really listen. Adults can be tempted to shut down an upsetting conversation by saying, “I don’t want to hear those things,” or “I had a hard time as a teen, but I got over it.” Instead, say, “Tell me more about how you’re feeling.” Then listen.
- Maintain connection. You might want to safeguard a child or teen by keeping them home in a protective cocoon, but isolation can increase the risk of suicidal behaviors. Help a struggling child maintain connections with friends and loved ones.
- Be compassionate. Express your love and concern for the child or teen. Tell them you hear their pain, that it can get better, that you will make sure they get help, and will support them every step of the way.
- Trust your judgment. If a young person denies that they are having suicidal thoughts, but you doubt their honesty, trust your intuition. Take further steps to ensure their safety.
- Prioritize safety. Remove weapons from the house, make sure the child or teen is not left alone, and consult a mental health professional right away.
Where to find help - Call or text 988 or use the chat function at 988lifeline.org